Rate Alessandra Samson

You apologise for things that aren't your fault. You say yes when you mean no. You rehearse conversations for days, then avoid them entirely. You're the reliable one at work, the easy-going one in relationships. Underneath the “I'm fine”, you're anxious, resentful, and empty. You’ve spent so long being what everyone needs that you don't know what you want anymore. You've lost yourself somewhere in all the performing. You know something needs to change. You're tired of managing everyone else’s feelings whilst yours gets buried. Tired of the guilt every time you think about saying no. Tired of not recognising the person you've become.

Saying yes to everything isn't really about being kind it’s about feeling safe. You learned that managing other peoples emotions protected you from conflict, rejection, being “too much”. It worked until it didn't and now you're exhausted, wondering how care for others became self-abandonment. That's where we start. Making sense of it, then changing it.

I know reaching out is hard especially when you spent so long putting everyone else first. Asking for help probably feel selfish, or like you should be able to handle this alone. That hesitation makes sense. And you're here anyway. I offer therapy on Mondays and some evenings.

I offer both short and long-term therapy working at a pace that feels right for you.